I know I may have a while until this happens, but staying positive is so important for me while all of my friends around me are getting married and having babies. Sometimes my ego just can't help but take me down. All these negative thoughts flood in about how I am so 'alone' and how it is going to be this way FOREVER. A bit dramatic, I know. But thats who I am. I should totally get into improv. Now don't get me wrong, I am definitely basking in their happiness FOR SURE. But sometimes I can't help but feel like there is something missing in my life, which is definitely not the case at all, I have my computer.
When feelings like these arise, I know it is time to get to work! As Yogi Bhajan once said "If you don't go within you go without" and I find it extremely important to go within. I like to ask myself questions like, what am I grateful for? What is it that is really bothering me here? Or, what is one thing I have to look forward to? As you begin to focus on the positive, the levels of Serotonin in the brain become triggered. In turn, stress levels are reduced and good feelings are produced. Another thing I like to do to increase my levels of Oxytocin, (the love hormone) is to write a letter to someone whom I am grateful for, and explain to them all that they have done for me. It is also fun to mail the letter and decorate the envelope. Could you imagine getting a letter in the mail from someone telling you how much they love and appreciate you?! How awesome would that be!
Just like everyone else in the world, I am insecure at times and I definitely experience loneliness. I have come to understand that feelings are only temporary and the key ingredient here is to not act upon them by downloading the latest dating app. Not to say I haven't done this, but I think that feeling my way through these feelings can be way more effective. So for anyone out there who is feeling lonely or scared, know that your prince charming is totally on the way. He just needs to learn a few things first, just like we do. But until then bon voyage ladies!
Sat Nam <3
Sat Nam <3